How to deal with workplace issues during pregnancy and your return to work

Pregnancy is an exciting time full of hope, love and adventure, however sometimes issues at work can disrupt and cause stress during this sacred time.

As part of a project that I am working on, I have been interviewing women about their workplace experiences when becoming Mums. Whilst there were some positive experiences; sadly, many of the accounts were quite shocking (even to a seasoned HR professional like me!).

Becoming a mother is a time of highs and lows and women need to be able to speak openly about their workplace experiences and challenges. Unfortunately, this psychological safety is still lacking in many workplaces and women simply cannot speak up for fear of the repercussions. This leads to feelings of isolation, loneliness and a loss of confidence.

Stories of misogyny, bullying and discrimination filled our conversations; sometimes actions were blatant and sometimes they were more insidious. The women I spoke to reported being humiliated in front of others, excluded from key meetings and subject to open judgements about their parenting choices. Impossible workloads and long hours left many of them feeling tired, anxious, and burnt-out.

Some have now left their jobs and have now found new roles in fantastic supportive and flexible workplaces, but this has often come with financial implications. Some are still in their jobs, putting up with unfair treatment because flexible working arrangements mean they can work around childcare and family commitments. Surely parents should not feel held to ransom in this way just because it means they can spend more time with their children?

Sexism, bullying and inappropriate behaviour towards new mums can come from anyone, it is not only a male issue. Incorrect and out-dated views of motherhood are still believed by some (men and women alike), and employers should ensure that they have policies and processes in place to protect new parents. If you are an employer looking to create or refresh your maternity and flexible working policies then get in touch.

We’d love to support you in creating a safe working environment for pregnant women and working mums.

What should you do if you are a new or expectant Mum experiencing issues?

·         Don’t keep it to yourself. You do not deserve what is happening to you and it is not your fault. Find a trusted friend or family member and speak to them about what is happening. They don’t have to have the answers, they can simply provide emotional support and you won’t feel so alone.

·         Keep notes of times and dates. Sometimes individual incidents do not seem like much on their own, but if you record them, you can present each one as part of a bigger picture.

·         Speak to your HR department about what is happening and share your notes. They can help you to raise the issues informally at first and work towards a resolution.

·         Read your Company’s policies on maternity, flexible working, bullying and harassment. Getting informed will increase your confidence in how to raise the issues formally, if needed.

·         Speak to me -  I offer coaching for new mums to support you from the start of your pregnancy, through maternity leave to when you return to your career. We will work together to ensure that all the practicalities of pregnancy, birth and having a new baby are covered whilst coaching you on ways to protect your emotional, mental, and physical health.

·         Speak to your GP, mid-wife or a medical professional if you are experiencing emotional, mental or physical symptoms. They will always rather you get checked out and don’t struggle in silence. If you need urgent support, then call the Samaritans on 116 123 immediately.